Here is the tl;dr version first. To see all of Pigsty Ville you have to pay to join the group. Unfortunately the owner of the group is a fruitcake who will assume you are an alt of somebody who is out to get him. So you could be banned without warning due to his paranoia, losing your money in the process.
Pigsty Ville is a sim in SL which caters to every perversion. It is a truly filthy place, much of it does turn my stomach. It's not my bag, having said that it looks wonderful. It is probably the best looking adult sim I have seen. And that is why I not only decided to make it my #1 place to hang out, but also decided to get involved when Marlon.Ganloso, the owner started talking to me.
It wasn't just that it was a great looking sim and that Marlon is a nice guy, but he also told me that some of the other sims were out to fuck with him and close him down. He did say at the time, "Some people think I am paranoid..." and I did think he was being a bit paranoid, but I am a sucker for the underdog and decided to help him draw traffic to the site. I became the hostess there and spent a few days playing meet-and-greet.
The more he talked to me, the more he let me know about his suspicions. I concluded he did have a touch of paranoia and it was probably only a matter of time before he had a falling out with me.
Well, it took less than a week. He accused my Linn of being an alter of his ex-girlfriend (You have no idea how absurd that is) and the more reasons I gave him as to why she couldn't... lets just say that no matter what I said, he found a pattern in it that linked Linn to his ex-girlfriend and other alts. By the time he called me a bitch and took away my sim-rights I was pretty confident paranoid schizophrenia was the cause of his suspicions.
It is wrong to mock the afflicted and despite a breakdown in our relationship I decided I wanted to stay on the sim. And he seems like a nice guy... I thought he would calm down, snap out of it, and I would carry on as normal. I thought that if I was stable, sane, unchanging, I might be the one person he trusts even during an episode and I might be able to get him to seek help.
Unfortunately Ophelia logged in overnight and he banned and muted her amidst a load of abuse in German. Then he did the same to me when I logged in, then he did the same to Linn. It seems that overnight he brooded on the issue and decided that we were all out to get him.
Having spent a week as his confidant, I can tell you he suspected just about everybody who came on the sim as being an alt, and I kept telling him, "Even if they are alts, they are giving you traffic, they can't harm you, leave them alone!". I can only wonder how many people he does kick/ban from the sim, but I no longer wonder why such a great looking place is virtually empty.
I mean Marlon no ill will, the poor guy needs help. But be warned, if you pay to join, you could end up losing your money for no good reason. At least not a reason that makes any sense to you.
Sunday, 26 October 2014
Tuesday, 19 August 2014
Münchausen's Rapist
I recently ran across a strange bird on an online game. I had been warned that she was crazy and had many alts which she used to stir up trouble.
But I was pleasant to her, one of the few people who was in all probability. Maybe this is why she brought her sob story to me. She claimed she had been raped... on-line, in the game.
As I have both feet firmly planted in reality, it is not a claim I can take too seriously. Whatever happens online is not comparable than a real world physical rape. And besides I saw through the lies straight away.
However, 'rape' within roleplay is against the rules, or at least has to follow certain rules, so the Admins had to investigate or at least make a judgment based on the evidence they were offered. While they did this discreetly, the accuser made very public accusations.
A few days passed and during my travels within the virtual world I heard about very similar story. To cut a long story short, I soon uncovered around nine alts belonging to the woman, some a month old, some a few years old. But all pretty similar. Similar enough to be obvious.
It seems the modus operandi is to pretend to be offering Rape Roleplay. For her to go along with it, then afterwards claim there was no consent, that they forgot to ask if Rape Roleplay was approved. She would then try to get the 'gentleman' banned, threaten to report Admins that did not ban the accused, all the while trying to garner attention and sympathy from her new tribe/gang/clan/guild.
The motives seem obvious:-
1. Sympathy from people who don't seem to be able to separate RolePlay from reality and think that this is as serious as a real/world rape, or at least act as if it is.
2. Attention. This causes drama. It seemed to me that few people believe her accusations, but that probably doesn't matter much as attention is attention. Hatred and anger is better than being ignored. And like all drama queens they lap it up, reveling in being the victim.
3. Power. As it seems anyone who claims rape is automatically believed by some people, being in this position gives them a certain amount of power. The are doing damage to those they accuse, it may not last but they are forced to defend themselves. And suddenly the accuser is rubbing shoulders with the Admins.
I am told that the person in question has caused all sorts of problems in various ways, usually making up stories and accusations. But this trick of using false accusations of rape has been repeated. It makes me think that it is some kind of Factitious Disorder, related to Münchausen by Internet, which can include feigning being a victim of violence.
***
I am sure none of this is new or unusual. Similar tricks are probably as old as the internet. I dare say this also happens in the physical world. I wouldn't have written about it if it were not for an observation that few people actually identified and said that this is not really rape.
Obviously this is a game and it has rules, and the Admins have to work within the framework of those rules. So there was discussion about where and how this happened. There were also a couple of people who pointed out that she could have actually said no or turned the computer off.
But assuming she had not faked chat logs, was not making up stuff on the spot. Assuming it all went down as she described.... then the only crime the accused had committed was a minor infraction of the rules in a roleplay game. He had forgot to ask for her approval. When it's framed on those terms, this breach of the rules is about as minor as you can get. It is actually equivalent to something like forgetting to wear the right group tag.
And yet, because the word "Rape" is involved, some people treated the matter with the utmost gravity. Certainly she was acting as if this rape in roleplay was somehow morally equivalent to the real thing. This is an amazing thing to behold because when asked why she didn't just log off, she said because her meter had not turned from purple to red. So she was faced with options, to TP out to another sim, log off, or stay and get raped. And having weighed up her options, at the time she reached the conclusion that the colour of the text above her head was a more serious matter than being raped.
Obviously she is batshit crazy. But I am amazed that more people I spoke to over the incident didn't argue against her on this point. Instead the debate was mostly about consent and jurisdiction.
More amazing is that this group of sims are covered in people shooting each other. If somebody guns another person down without the required roleplay rules being observed, it is usually the case that they cry 'cheat', nobody calls for people to be banned on the basis of 'murder'.
(To give this some more context, the incident started on one of the few Adult sims on this group, where many people go for Capture/Rape RP. It is pretty much par for the course there, although such games are strictly forbidden in any form on adjacent sims. So the severity of the breach of rule depends on what sim they are on. But lets face it, what people say consensually in IMs rather than local chat is their own damn business.)
But I was pleasant to her, one of the few people who was in all probability. Maybe this is why she brought her sob story to me. She claimed she had been raped... on-line, in the game.
As I have both feet firmly planted in reality, it is not a claim I can take too seriously. Whatever happens online is not comparable than a real world physical rape. And besides I saw through the lies straight away.
However, 'rape' within roleplay is against the rules, or at least has to follow certain rules, so the Admins had to investigate or at least make a judgment based on the evidence they were offered. While they did this discreetly, the accuser made very public accusations.
A few days passed and during my travels within the virtual world I heard about very similar story. To cut a long story short, I soon uncovered around nine alts belonging to the woman, some a month old, some a few years old. But all pretty similar. Similar enough to be obvious.
It seems the modus operandi is to pretend to be offering Rape Roleplay. For her to go along with it, then afterwards claim there was no consent, that they forgot to ask if Rape Roleplay was approved. She would then try to get the 'gentleman' banned, threaten to report Admins that did not ban the accused, all the while trying to garner attention and sympathy from her new tribe/gang/clan/guild.
The motives seem obvious:-
1. Sympathy from people who don't seem to be able to separate RolePlay from reality and think that this is as serious as a real/world rape, or at least act as if it is.
2. Attention. This causes drama. It seemed to me that few people believe her accusations, but that probably doesn't matter much as attention is attention. Hatred and anger is better than being ignored. And like all drama queens they lap it up, reveling in being the victim.
3. Power. As it seems anyone who claims rape is automatically believed by some people, being in this position gives them a certain amount of power. The are doing damage to those they accuse, it may not last but they are forced to defend themselves. And suddenly the accuser is rubbing shoulders with the Admins.
I am told that the person in question has caused all sorts of problems in various ways, usually making up stories and accusations. But this trick of using false accusations of rape has been repeated. It makes me think that it is some kind of Factitious Disorder, related to Münchausen by Internet, which can include feigning being a victim of violence.
***
I am sure none of this is new or unusual. Similar tricks are probably as old as the internet. I dare say this also happens in the physical world. I wouldn't have written about it if it were not for an observation that few people actually identified and said that this is not really rape.
Obviously this is a game and it has rules, and the Admins have to work within the framework of those rules. So there was discussion about where and how this happened. There were also a couple of people who pointed out that she could have actually said no or turned the computer off.
But assuming she had not faked chat logs, was not making up stuff on the spot. Assuming it all went down as she described.... then the only crime the accused had committed was a minor infraction of the rules in a roleplay game. He had forgot to ask for her approval. When it's framed on those terms, this breach of the rules is about as minor as you can get. It is actually equivalent to something like forgetting to wear the right group tag.
And yet, because the word "Rape" is involved, some people treated the matter with the utmost gravity. Certainly she was acting as if this rape in roleplay was somehow morally equivalent to the real thing. This is an amazing thing to behold because when asked why she didn't just log off, she said because her meter had not turned from purple to red. So she was faced with options, to TP out to another sim, log off, or stay and get raped. And having weighed up her options, at the time she reached the conclusion that the colour of the text above her head was a more serious matter than being raped.
Obviously she is batshit crazy. But I am amazed that more people I spoke to over the incident didn't argue against her on this point. Instead the debate was mostly about consent and jurisdiction.
More amazing is that this group of sims are covered in people shooting each other. If somebody guns another person down without the required roleplay rules being observed, it is usually the case that they cry 'cheat', nobody calls for people to be banned on the basis of 'murder'.
(To give this some more context, the incident started on one of the few Adult sims on this group, where many people go for Capture/Rape RP. It is pretty much par for the course there, although such games are strictly forbidden in any form on adjacent sims. So the severity of the breach of rule depends on what sim they are on. But lets face it, what people say consensually in IMs rather than local chat is their own damn business.)
Sunday, 1 June 2014
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Monday, 16 December 2013
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Monday, 2 December 2013
Thursday, 12 September 2013
Reclaiming Nancy
Another ear worm caused by a TV advert.
Nancy Wilson - How Glad I Am
They really should ban adverts from using old classics. It isn't fair that people should be introduced to them via baby food and forever form that association! Here is the full song with pictures to help give you a new memory.
Nancy Wilson - How Glad I Am
They really should ban adverts from using old classics. It isn't fair that people should be introduced to them via baby food and forever form that association! Here is the full song with pictures to help give you a new memory.
Wednesday, 4 September 2013
Don't understand it?
I'm making this post for AndrewV69 who said:-
I think the case has been made that being dominant is a high risk strategy, but it can be extremely fruitful, which is why we are all related to Genghis Khan... or something like that.
It seems to be most people's instinct is to assume that if dominance gets you to the top of the pile, submission must put you on the bottom of the pile. This is absurd, as it is those that refuse to submit to authority that find themselves on the margins of society, those that submit can get into the inner circle of those with the power... assuming they aren't useless idiots.
I give you our old friend, The Justicar!
I have to state that I am not suggesting for a moment that Justicar has a submissive personality, quite the opposite, his assertiveness would force him towards being dominant. But note that I'd be willing to bet that he fully understood what was expected of him not just in terms of a 'job' but the role he played. I would bet that he was not only extremely competent in his duties, but in matters beyond his duties too. He is intelligent, diligent, and yes... he is cute enough to be able to get away with being snarky.
In this role he would have had to have been submissive. More than that he probably would have had to stay three steps ahead to keep his boss happy. So not just passive but active.
But he is clearly telling you what the payoff is. He 'belongs' to one of the most powerful men in the regiment, so it would be a case of, "Nobody fucks with MY driver". Aside from that, he is in a position where he is on first name basis with the officer's wifes... which says says everything about his access to power.
I think I have made the case that being submissive, as long as you can also make yourself useful, can be a successful evolutionary strategy. I would also suggest it is actually a better strategy than being dominant because although you could fall alongside whoever you give your allegiance to, there is also a chance that you could survive and whoever usurped them will find you useful too.
But evolution doesn't work without reproduction, and there is some evidence that people in power tend towards high sex drives, and I'd suggest that submissive people are as likely to find power and aphrodisiac just like anybody else. My experiences would certainly suggest this.
So if we assume that dominant people are producing offspring with submissive people, how are they likely to turn out? Your guess is as good as mine as to what is nature and what is nurture, but I suspect that they are born with the potential to be either dominant or submissive.
I have asked people in the scene about their family and have noticed some trends. I will use my own family as an example. I can think of nobody within my family who is not either dominant (domineering) or submissive. There is a fair scattering of homosexuals and bisexuals in my family. Neither gender or sexuality is a predictor of dominance or submission, although the women tend towards being dominant. Some of the women in my family who are submissive will assume the role of dominant (to the point of abusive and violent behavior) when not partnered with a dominant man. Submissive people are capable of being very manipulative when it suits them. Dominants will partner with others that are equally dominant.
Some of my grandparents and parents generation entered into marriages of convenience to hide their homosexuality, yet these partnerships were still one of a dominant and a submissive.
Also interesting is the career choices of my family who tend towards the military, police, fire service, nursing and education. All careers with a very structured hierarchy.
So my hypothesis, is that there really are 'born leaders', but there are also born followers and that they come from the same stock.
I won't bore you with more detail, but I am aware that much of this is learned behavior. However I do think there is a nature part to this. When it comes to BDSM, there are a lot of people who play at it, but there are those who can't really do it any other way, (just as DeepInsideYourMind says). Where it gets confusing for people on the outside is the sex part, especially kinky sex. I can't say that it isn't about sex, but it doesn't have to be about sex. But power is an aphrodisiac. And sex is very intimate, connected with trust and vulnerability. Many of the kinks and fetishes somehow involve primal instincts, some kind of pack behavior or have some relation to power and control. Somehow it all comes together.
I hope this makes the subject a little less mysterious.
Not my thing at all. I also really do not understand why some people get off on being a sub either. None of the stuff I have read makes any sense to me, especially the part about feeling safe? (6847)I don't want to give you a 'just so' story and take you back to the Savanna, but I think evolutionary-psychology could explain what is often being played out here.
I think the case has been made that being dominant is a high risk strategy, but it can be extremely fruitful, which is why we are all related to Genghis Khan... or something like that.
It seems to be most people's instinct is to assume that if dominance gets you to the top of the pile, submission must put you on the bottom of the pile. This is absurd, as it is those that refuse to submit to authority that find themselves on the margins of society, those that submit can get into the inner circle of those with the power... assuming they aren't useless idiots.
I give you our old friend, The Justicar!
I have to state that I am not suggesting for a moment that Justicar has a submissive personality, quite the opposite, his assertiveness would force him towards being dominant. But note that I'd be willing to bet that he fully understood what was expected of him not just in terms of a 'job' but the role he played. I would bet that he was not only extremely competent in his duties, but in matters beyond his duties too. He is intelligent, diligent, and yes... he is cute enough to be able to get away with being snarky.
In this role he would have had to have been submissive. More than that he probably would have had to stay three steps ahead to keep his boss happy. So not just passive but active.
But he is clearly telling you what the payoff is. He 'belongs' to one of the most powerful men in the regiment, so it would be a case of, "Nobody fucks with MY driver". Aside from that, he is in a position where he is on first name basis with the officer's wifes... which says says everything about his access to power.
I think I have made the case that being submissive, as long as you can also make yourself useful, can be a successful evolutionary strategy. I would also suggest it is actually a better strategy than being dominant because although you could fall alongside whoever you give your allegiance to, there is also a chance that you could survive and whoever usurped them will find you useful too.
But evolution doesn't work without reproduction, and there is some evidence that people in power tend towards high sex drives, and I'd suggest that submissive people are as likely to find power and aphrodisiac just like anybody else. My experiences would certainly suggest this.
So if we assume that dominant people are producing offspring with submissive people, how are they likely to turn out? Your guess is as good as mine as to what is nature and what is nurture, but I suspect that they are born with the potential to be either dominant or submissive.
I have asked people in the scene about their family and have noticed some trends. I will use my own family as an example. I can think of nobody within my family who is not either dominant (domineering) or submissive. There is a fair scattering of homosexuals and bisexuals in my family. Neither gender or sexuality is a predictor of dominance or submission, although the women tend towards being dominant. Some of the women in my family who are submissive will assume the role of dominant (to the point of abusive and violent behavior) when not partnered with a dominant man. Submissive people are capable of being very manipulative when it suits them. Dominants will partner with others that are equally dominant.
Some of my grandparents and parents generation entered into marriages of convenience to hide their homosexuality, yet these partnerships were still one of a dominant and a submissive.
Also interesting is the career choices of my family who tend towards the military, police, fire service, nursing and education. All careers with a very structured hierarchy.
So my hypothesis, is that there really are 'born leaders', but there are also born followers and that they come from the same stock.
I won't bore you with more detail, but I am aware that much of this is learned behavior. However I do think there is a nature part to this. When it comes to BDSM, there are a lot of people who play at it, but there are those who can't really do it any other way, (just as DeepInsideYourMind says). Where it gets confusing for people on the outside is the sex part, especially kinky sex. I can't say that it isn't about sex, but it doesn't have to be about sex. But power is an aphrodisiac. And sex is very intimate, connected with trust and vulnerability. Many of the kinks and fetishes somehow involve primal instincts, some kind of pack behavior or have some relation to power and control. Somehow it all comes together.
I hope this makes the subject a little less mysterious.
Monday, 19 August 2013
The Great Society
It has come to my attention that some fans of Jefferson Airplane are unaware of The Great Society. In order to remedy this tragic situation I have the pleasure of presenting this sampler.
Warning: Many of these videos contain photos of Grace Slick which may cause love, lust and obsession.
Warning: Many of these videos contain photos of Grace Slick which may cause love, lust and obsession.
- Grimly forming
- Often as I may
- You can't cry
- Didn't think so
- Darkly smiling
- White rabbit
- Born to be burned
- Everybody knows / Nature Boy
- She's got it on her mind
- Daydream, nightmare, love
- Arbitration
- Somebody to love
Tuesday, 13 August 2013
Vicky Caramel - Banned by the BBC
I made the list of worst offending trolls mentioned BBC's Newsnight, in what appears to be a truly awful piece of journalism.
Most of level one seem to be the real trolls and fake accounts, but level two is a regular who's who of Twitter's best skeptics, free thinkers, and atheists and I am honoured to be listed alongside people such as mykeru, Thunderf00t, saramayhew, ReneeHendricks, NoelPlum99 and Integralmathyt.
How did I make list? My guess is that it was when I pointed out the hypocrisy of professional feminist Ophelia Benson. To cut a long story short, having made capital out of a news story of a girl having acid thrown in her face, she let it pass without comment when one of her sycophants offered to kneecap her detractors. In a sarcastic tweet I asked if she had a preference for knee-capping over acid attacks.
Ok, so Twitter isn't the best medium for getting a point across as it is only 174 characters. But she is an experienced user and is capable of following threads. So when she represented my tweet as a threat, it was completely dishonest, especially as in the proceeding 3 hours dozens of other users jumped on the incident. Of course, there was no condemnation of knee-capping tweet (even though it was quickly deleted) and no apology to me... I was quickly blocked by her and a large number of radical feminists, manginas and intimidating Scottish Nationalist.
So there you go. For those people who have spend months criticizing Atheism+ and are now butt-hurt for not making the list -- sorry! But this isn't a list of trolls as they would have you would have you believe, it isn't even a list of satirists and piss takers. They thrive on all that and use it as evidence that they are victims. Atheism+ and Free Thought Blogs are a vanity trip, so to really irk them, you have to pounce on an embarrassing mistake which exposes these professional victims for what they really are.
Most of level one seem to be the real trolls and fake accounts, but level two is a regular who's who of Twitter's best skeptics, free thinkers, and atheists and I am honoured to be listed alongside people such as mykeru, Thunderf00t, saramayhew, ReneeHendricks, NoelPlum99 and Integralmathyt.
How did I make list? My guess is that it was when I pointed out the hypocrisy of professional feminist Ophelia Benson. To cut a long story short, having made capital out of a news story of a girl having acid thrown in her face, she let it pass without comment when one of her sycophants offered to kneecap her detractors. In a sarcastic tweet I asked if she had a preference for knee-capping over acid attacks.
Ok, so Twitter isn't the best medium for getting a point across as it is only 174 characters. But she is an experienced user and is capable of following threads. So when she represented my tweet as a threat, it was completely dishonest, especially as in the proceeding 3 hours dozens of other users jumped on the incident. Of course, there was no condemnation of knee-capping tweet (even though it was quickly deleted) and no apology to me... I was quickly blocked by her and a large number of radical feminists, manginas and intimidating Scottish Nationalist.
So there you go. For those people who have spend months criticizing Atheism+ and are now butt-hurt for not making the list -- sorry! But this isn't a list of trolls as they would have you would have you believe, it isn't even a list of satirists and piss takers. They thrive on all that and use it as evidence that they are victims. Atheism+ and Free Thought Blogs are a vanity trip, so to really irk them, you have to pounce on an embarrassing mistake which exposes these professional victims for what they really are.
Tuesday, 23 July 2013
Wednesday, 17 July 2013
Sunday, 7 July 2013
Friday, 28 June 2013
Loota
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| Missing man formation |
When flying, you aren't talking, so I can't say I knew her well... but I really wish I had.
For as long as I stay in this virtual world, the name Loota Klossovsky will be on my friends list.
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Friday, 14 June 2013
Thursday, 6 June 2013
Again and again and again
I have the same conversation pretty much 3-10 times a week, depending on the time of year. It goes something like this:-
I have heard every excuse as to why they can't send a simple photo within a reasonable time-frame, from broken cameras to failed uploads. I have heard every excuse as to why the photos they did send are on a zillion porn websites, and the one I hear all the time is, "I will send you a photo once I get to know you better". I have this conversation several times a week, sometimes several times a day. I need to quickly sort through the time wasters, do not have time to get to know you better.
I never said it was easy to be my sub, it isn't. I don't go looking for prospects, they come to me. If you want to belong to me, be ready to give me what I want.
Prospect: Hello Mistress.
Vicky: Hello, what can you do for me?
Prospect: I would like to be yours.
Vicky: I am probably too much for you. Have you read my profile, do you know what I want?
Prospect: Yes, I am a very submissive girl, I will do anything you ask.
Vicky: Have you read this ~ http://vicky-caramel.blogspot.co.uk/2013/04/what-is-virtual-domination.html
Prospect: No, I'm reading it now.
Vicky: Good.
Prospect: Sounds hot. Will you take this girl?
Vicky: Can you give me what I want?
Prospect: I will do anything for you Mistress.
Vicky: You will give me some of your RL?
Prospect: Yes, I would love that.
Vicky: And photos?
Prospect: Yes.
Vicky: Oh you sent me photos of your pussy. Lovely! Fantastic! Very nice.
Prospect: Will you give me a collar mistress.
Vicky: First I want you to send me a photo. Put you keys between your feet and send me a photo. Wear nice shoes.
Prospect: But I just sent you photos.
Vicky: Yes, but I didn't ask for porn and they could be anyone, you could have got them off a porn site. So can you send me the photo of your keys and feet in a timely fashion?
Prospect: If you don't believe me I won't bother you again.
Vicky: Okay bye.
Prospect: They are photos of me. I am a little insulted that you think I am trying to trick you.
Vicky: So if I put those photos into Google-Images, I won't find them on a porn site?
Prospect: No Mistress.
Vicky: Okay great, I believe you, thanks for showing me. Now I would like to see your shoes. It's a simple request, I want to see your feet either side of your keys. I can't think of any reason why that would be difficult considering you just showed me you cunt and your tits.
Prospect: I will tomorrow. I have to go now.
I have heard every excuse as to why they can't send a simple photo within a reasonable time-frame, from broken cameras to failed uploads. I have heard every excuse as to why the photos they did send are on a zillion porn websites, and the one I hear all the time is, "I will send you a photo once I get to know you better". I have this conversation several times a week, sometimes several times a day. I need to quickly sort through the time wasters, do not have time to get to know you better.
I never said it was easy to be my sub, it isn't. I don't go looking for prospects, they come to me. If you want to belong to me, be ready to give me what I want.
Sunday, 2 June 2013
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