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Again and again and again

I have the same conversation pretty much 3-10 times a week, depending on the time of year. It goes something like this:-

Prospect: Hello Mistress.

Vicky: Hello, what can you do for me?

Prospect: I would like to be yours.

Vicky: I am probably too much for you. Have you read my profile, do you know what I want?

Prospect: Yes, I am a very submissive girl, I will do anything you ask.

Vicky: Have you read this ~ http://vicky-caramel.blogspot.co.uk/2013/04/what-is-virtual-domination.html

Prospect: No, I'm reading it now.

Vicky: Good.

Prospect: Sounds hot. Will you take this girl?

Vicky: Can you give me what I want?

Prospect: I will do anything for you Mistress.

Vicky: You will give me some of your RL?

Prospect: Yes, I would love that.

Vicky: And photos?

Prospect: Yes.

Vicky: Oh you sent me photos of your pussy. Lovely! Fantastic! Very nice.

Prospect: Will you give me a collar mistress.

Vicky: First I want you to send me a photo. Put you keys between your feet and send me a photo. Wear nice shoes.

Prospect: But I just sent you photos.

Vicky: Yes, but I didn't ask for porn and they could be anyone, you could have got them off a porn site. So can you send me the photo of your keys and feet in a timely fashion?

Prospect: If you don't believe me I won't bother you again.

Vicky: Okay bye.

Prospect: They are photos of me. I am a little insulted that you think I am trying to trick you.

Vicky: So if I put those photos into Google-Images, I won't find them on a porn site?

Prospect: No Mistress.

Vicky: Okay great, I believe you, thanks for showing me. Now I would like to see your shoes. It's a simple request, I want to see your feet either side of your keys. I can't think of any reason why that would be difficult considering you just showed me you cunt and your tits.

Prospect: I will tomorrow. I have to go now.

I have heard every excuse as to why they can't send a simple photo within a reasonable time-frame, from broken cameras to failed uploads. I have heard every excuse as to why the photos they did send are on a zillion porn websites, and the one I hear all the time is, "I will send you a photo once I get to know you better".  I have this conversation several times a week, sometimes several times a day. I need to quickly sort through the time wasters,  do not have time to get to know you better.

I never said it was easy to be my sub, it isn't. I don't go looking for prospects, they come to me. If you want to belong to me, be ready to give me what I want.

Mistress

By Monica

I thought it might help to put some of my random chaotic thoughts into words.
A Domme has your best interests in mind, She knows whats best for you and how to help control your inner most desires and fears, for someone like me She is strong in all the ways I am not. Makes me feel safe and secure. I'm happy making others happy. I'm happy knowing I can make her day a little better when we are together. I admit I don't know everything and I don't have all the answers and I'm going to mess up but, but she will help me and guide me and make me into a better person.
I think a Domme and sub complete each other, each of us gets an outlet for the things we need. Regardless how good a relationship may be without a Miss it's a very empty existence. I don't really know how to explain that very well I just know being owned, giving myself completely to someone is something that I need. I guess it's like air I cant really explain air I just need it. Maybe I wouldn't die without a Domme in my life, but a part of me a huge part of me would certainly feel as though it did die.

She is my world.

Walking the puppy

Zero-4

I decided a while ago that I want my girls to start keeping something like a slave diary. I think diaries are a bit hard work, but when I have told one of my girls what's what, I want them to write it down and make it permanent and public.

I have been busy recently and so have my girls, so although I thought of this about a month ago it has been slow progress getting this up and running. But I'm pleased to say that my #04 girl has made a good start.

You can take a look here. Please take a look because I'm so proud of this. I own her body and her soul, I know and she knows it, and this little website is my way of showing off my possession, and giving her the opportunity to show just how much I own her completely.

I love it, it's a work in progress that I can tune and tweak, and keep adding to. It is early days yet but already I think it's beautiful.

This is why I come here. This kind of thing makes it all worth while. Sometimes I find myself talking to a Domme who is in the scene in the real world and I feel like a bit of a fraud, like what I'm doing is all make-believe. But this makes it real, it makes me feel like an owner. This makes me feel like a Domme... it excites me and makes me want to keep on going.

I'm so proud of this.

In my email

From Nina while I was at work ~ "just a big baby and a statue wanting there owner. =^.^=" 

From Becca while I was sleeping  ~ "figured I would help around the house..  :)"

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Note to self

She is the object of my affection.

I love her, I adore her, I put her on a pedistal.
I miss her when she isn't there, and get a warm feeling when she is with me.
I am amazed by her tallents, I'm happy when she is creating, it makes me proud.
When she tells me about her vocation, I'm proud she makes the world a better place,
I feel lucky to have such a wonderful warm, loving person give themself to me.
Her interlect and wit thrill me. I am filled with pride to see her standing tall.

And she is a filthy little slut.
A dirty, whorish, arse licking, piss drinker. A reprehensable cunt.

And I love her all the same.
I love her when she is crawling like a dog.
I love her when she is smeared in her own filth.

My gift to her is accept her in her entirity,
to let her be the slut she is,
encourage her to roam free in her depravity.
And protect her while she is there.

This is my gift. My unconditional love, unbreakable and unshockable.
Freedom to be herself with me, protected from the scorn of society.

And thats why I own her. It's because I deserve her.
I deserve her because I want her. I am happy to take it all,
the sweet angel and the filthy whore.
The bitch, the victim, the brat, the reprograde, accepted gratefully,
shared, enjoyed, kept secret and guarded with my life.

***

I wrote this because I have to keep reminding myself why I do this and what makes me a Domme rather than just a lover or a friend. I'm a nice person, I like fairness, I'm egalitarian, and I'm not a sadist or abusive by nature. I try hard to treat people with consideration... sometimes it's hard to remember to consider they might like some abuse and to be treated as a slut and slave.

Trolling fail

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I suppose I brought it on myself posting that I am done with Sissies. I suspect I'll now get abuse from random female impersonators from time-to-time... at least that is the only reason I can think of for this ill-thought-out attempt at trolling me. Unless it's jealousy, or an attempt at Domme Breaking?

Anyway, I post it here for your amusement.

I'm done with sissies

If you are a sissy, the answer is 'No, I will not be your friend'.

It's nothing personal, you are probably a lovely guy... but I'm prejudiced.

The word prejudice means to pre-judge, and based on past experience it makes complete sense for me to assume that if you are a sissy you will follow this pattern of of behaviour:-

1. Beg me to be their Mistress.
2. Ask to be friends anyway.
3. Beg me to be your Mistress and hang around as if I was.
4. Sulk.
5. Drop hints that your want me to be your Mistress.
6. Sulk some more.
7. Ask me what I would do with you if I were their Mistress.
6. Drop more hints that your want me to be their Mistress.
8. Ask me to set you some tasks.
9. Not do the tasks, presumably because the tasks weren't sexual in nature.
10. Ask me repeatedly why I don't take sissies.
11. Sulk.
12. Ask me If I can help find a Mistress.
13. Pester me for more tasks.
14. Ask my advice on finding a Mistress.
15. Ingnore my advice.
16. Ask me if I have friends that might be a Mistress.
17. Ask me to describe in detail what I do with my girls.
18. Whine and complain.
19. Make bitchy comments.
20. Ask me repeatedly why I don't take sissies.
21. Offer excuses when I offer suggestions about how to find a mistress.

22. Then either ignore me when it becomes apparent I will never be their Mistress, or throw a hissy fit.

On past experience, sissies seem incapable of being friends. They are just trying to get a foot in the door, they use you without offering anything in return. They are completely pathetic, moody, lacking in humour and a complete waste of space. They also tend toward bitterness, paranoia and a persecution complex. They are relentless in their pestering, their demands and they drag me down.

...and they wonder why they can't find a Mistress?

Oh sure, there are exceptions. I have known Dominant sissies that are great, I know cross dressers and transgendered who are not really sissies and play women, no problem. But if I play the odds, I'm not going to allow sissies into my Second Life.

I'm playing the odds, so don't blame me, blame all the other sissies that have acted like complete cunts.

I'll add one more thing ~ I do like men! But I'm not here for men. If I was here for men, I'd be interested in men that act like men, not men who what to dress in pink frilly stuff and act pathetic. I find nothing remotely attractive about sissies.

So please, don't even try. And if you are wondering why you can't find a Mistress, read my words and ask yourself if it applies to you.



I am aware of the irony in this. I have previously complained about the fact that most women looking for a Mistress are actually men. I don't actually have any problem with with men pretending to be women (so long as they don't try to take me for a ride), it's okay if they do a decent job of acting like women because I like women as a rule. But sissies act like pathetic men. I dislike pathetic people of any gender.

Dangerous people! (and how to guard against them).

I'm sure we have seen on the news about on-line pedophile rings, and how there are dozens of them worldwide, and how they get children to do stuff... and more recently how they get women to play along and do their bidding.

I have always wondered about this. I don't wonder how they groom women  to end up doing despicable things they wouldn't have dreamed of at the beginning. Thats actually no great mystery, they use people's natural commitment to consistency, to lead them in, they normalize, they allow them to justify... it's pretty much how cults work.

No, what I always wondered is how these pedophiles find each other? They can't exactly advertise it openly. I doubt there is some form of secret handshake either, or handkerchief in the back pocket. Any such signal or sign would soon be known. They must just be able to spot each other maybe? No, that makes no sense, if you could spot a pedophile we could develop a test.

So I always wondered how they meet and find each other because during my time on the internet I have seen very little which is suspicious.

I need wonder no more!

I had a very creepy conversation with somebody the other day, they started talking to me, and the conversation strayed into RL stuff... and frankly, the conversation stayed completely kosher, because I am completely kosher. But it could have so easily have gone bad. It ended up with me getting a load of "What would you do in my situation" type questions. If I had said, "You know, thats kinda hot" instead of "Oh poor you, you can't allow that", I strongly suspect they would have agreed.

...but I could be wrong. And thats the fucking point! Taken on face value, it was a completely innocent conversation!

I never take things at face value, I always look for a subtext. I'm good at it, it's why I can be a Domme and in this case I assume the worst and I strongly suspect that I was being probed by a pedophile.

But there is NOTHING for me to hang this on. The person concerned could completely deny it. If fact, they don't have to even completely deny it... they could say, "So what? I was fishing for roleplay. I have incest fantasies, I was too embarrassed to mention it straight out".

It's true... incest fantasy is extremely common, as is rape fantasy, mother/daughter, father/son... just look how many groups there are with names like, Legal Teens for Older Men, Young Sluts for Cougars, Filthy School Girls... yadda, yadda, yadda. Not to mention Adult Baby sitting services and a whole grey area which is near the knuckle (which is the point) but essentially harmless.

So what was different about this?

Firstly it was purely talking about Real Life. Secondly, If I'm right about them,  I don't think they wanted anything from me except a confederate. They were not trying to groom be to be their victim, they were testing me to see if I was like them!

That is the really scary part. I could freak out, question why they picked on me, wonder if I give off a pedophile vibe, but I won't. The simple fact is that I'm a Mommy Domme. At the time I was in a place where I was showing out as a Domme for older and younger people into BDSM. So if a nonce is going go fishing anywhere...

What is scary is that pedophiles are predators. And I was never in any danger of being prey. They were testing me to see if I was like they are. If that is how they talk to a Domme, how do they talk to subs? This person was kinda smart, charming, humble, open, I could see how they could with enough time, be very manipulative.

It's worrying, but frankly there is nothing I can do. All I have is, "That person gives me a bad vibe, I would treat them with caution". And saying that makes me look bad, as I found out earlier.

So there is no dilemma, I'm powerless. Short of going in undercover, possibly for months... there is nothing I can do but walk away and try and forget about it.

...there is just one thing I can do, that is remind you that there are nasty people out there. You have to be careful.

How do you be careful? How about 'never give them your personal information so they can't find you', how about simple rules like that?

No, thats no good!

I'll tell you why, firstly because relying on rules like that give you a false sense of security, especially as finding where you live is not what they are after. You are guarding against the wrong thing. And besides, if you have ever seen somebody like Darren Brown, you will realize that it is easy enough to trick people into giving them little parts of the puzzle over time.

What you really need to guard against is being slowly sucked in. You may think you are too smart for that... but actually, it is the dumb people who are harder to sucker. Smart principled people are far better easier to manipulate, and they are far better at making up excuses for themselves.

Yeah really! It's why cults are full of smart people.

But what cults also do is cut people off from their families and friends. This is because friends and family are normal and grounded in reality. They are a stark contrast the craziness. They don't even need to tell you you are being a loony, they stand as an example.

There is safety in numbers. Have one, two maybe even three friends that you tell everything to. Listen to their judgment because they won't be there getting suckered in with you, they won't hear all the smooth talk. But they will take an overview and tell you you are being crazy.

If you don't have friends you can talk to, imagine you do. Imagine I'm your friend, (if you are reading this I probably am). Would you be comfortable confiding in me what you just did... without explanation or justification or excuses? If you straight up told me what you just did, would I tell you you are crazy or sick?

I like to play into RL and I ask girls to do some pretty outrageous things, I even do a few outrageous things myself... but nobody gets hurt, and  I ensure everybody stays safe and legal. More importantly, even though I keep my girl's secrets, they don't have to. They can tell whoever they like, I'm proud of what I do. Would I be happy saying what I do into a group chat? Sure.

***

This doesn't deserve a separate blog post ~ if you come up to me and tell me that smoking is bad for my health... seriously, what kind of reaction are you expecting. Do you think I will laugh and hug you?

Expect me to take an instant dislike to you.

Sticky Vicky

I'm not used to Linn giving me stick, and i certainly didn't mind. My baby girl made me this lovely stick which she made in Blender.

All but my first cane have been gifts, firmly establishing it as my trademark. I have had two made for me now (Thank you Lita), both have had big heavy knobs. Sorta club like. Whatever must they think of me?

Initialed of course. Details.

A lovely bit knob.

The Reluctant Doll

Nina Susser - "I have been a bad doll"

Special

Some guys really know how to make you feel special:

i dont suppose your into meets?
well just i have a fantasy, Id love to pay a woman for sex..
i dont suppose your interested?

Music to Domme by

I know whats good for you, I know you are dying to, you can touch me if you want.



Garbage ~ Queer

Garbage inspired outfits

Naughty, naugty boy!

Ditsy Nomnom Makes me proud

Molested!

Sex pest Vicky gives Natsuki Sakai  a little tickle

Wheyheeeeey! Me loved fondling bewbies!

...and here is the photo I owe. Sorry, forgot where I saved it.
By the way, she is definitely NOT submitting to me, she just likes to sit on the floor.

Making it official

I look bored, but I'm in a state of shock.

I normally keep stuff like this kinda quiet, I don't like to make a fuss. It's the famous British reserve.

But I have been tossing and turning, fretting and... what goes with 'fretting'?

I have been all revved up, the last few weeks have been a roller coaster with Linn. It has been exciting, wonderful, amazing and awesomesauce.

And then my baby grrl comes back to me. I once said she couldn't be tamed, I think that's true. But for a little while at least, she would like to me to try and calm the savage beast, So I have changed the Dagger into Ditsy Nomnom, and her Rwar has become a squeak. I near enough wet myself laughing every time she squeaks!

So I'm on a roller-coaster holding a tiger by the tail, when my kitten falls into my lap! This was never an on-off thing, it was always a slowly working towards thing with intermissions. After a long courtship the ever calm Never, calmly offers me her collar and I calmly accept.... rev my engine and spin my wheels, unable to change pace.

This is such a big deal, I feel I should make a big deal of it. At the very least, such a precious gift demands a precious gift in return. It is the custom of my country. But it's all happened so fast, my head is in a spin...

I had a huge high, and it has left me exhausted just when we are starting something new. I need to sit down, rest, take stock, let things settle. But I can't rest, I feel I should be doing something... so I'll make the announcement, and that was it.

There! It's now official.

Greedy Piggy

Who's a greedy piggy?

Turns out I am..What a weekend. Not only did I adopt Never, but Ditsy Nomnom came back to me too.

And just when I thought my Second Life was was full and complete, Hanna (Gertrude) shows up just as Kovu is inviting me to a party at my house. So I find myself in need of a maid just as we are talking about latex piggy outfits!

Gertie serves drinks

As Vicky takes to the stage

Latex piggy on the Burlesque chair

Just a few friends in The Velvet Crush, But a good night.

Zorn and Cy

Kuvo and Cherry

Vicky takes a break from the burlesque

Gertie the Latex Piggy

What a lovely squeeky rear!

Truffle Shuffle

Cyrus gives Zo a Lapdance

Foxy arrives, Cherry takes the stage

A pro dancer! Cherry

Foxy adopts latex to put on a show

Foxy Natsuki looking adorabubble, with arsenic behind her.

Foxy in latex

Foxy out of latex

Poppy refuses to make snacks, Zo does the burlesque

Kovo gives Cherry a lap dance

I think... we must do this again, every Sunday night. And my basement now seems to have a name!

Thank you all, I'm so lucky to have such great people as friends. It's just a pity some of my favourite people couldn't make it. But I'm certain there will be a 'next time'.

Oh and I need to add, Thank you Hanna (Gurtie). You were the star of the show, everybody said you made the evening, and even though you had to leave, you set the tone. You are awesome and I love you loads.